gradientlair:

And let me save some patriarchal heterosexual men some time here since this will be the reply: "It’s different for women because [insert sexism] [insert misogyny] [insert a theism] [insert a secular view that supports gender inequality] [insert inaccurate biological essentialism] [make some reference to egg count/menopause for women versus sperm count/ability to make sperm forever for men, which will be inherently cissexist] [insert misogynoir where if the woman is Black, she’s considered “dirty” regardless of sexual activity or not] [insert other unproven fuckery that reveals abysmal cognitive dissonance].”  
And like, if she was “dirty” in his opinion prior to the sexual activity, why did he bother with it only to slander her later? Male privilege involves a great deal of cognitive dissonance. 

gradientlair:

And let me save some patriarchal heterosexual men some time here since this will be the reply: "It’s different for women because [insert sexism] [insert misogyny] [insert a theism] [insert a secular view that supports gender inequality] [insert inaccurate biological essentialism] [make some reference to egg count/menopause for women versus sperm count/ability to make sperm forever for men, which will be inherently cissexist] [insert misogynoir where if the woman is Black, she’s considered “dirty” regardless of sexual activity or not] [insert other unproven fuckery that reveals abysmal cognitive dissonance].”  

And like, if she was “dirty” in his opinion prior to the sexual activity, why did he bother with it only to slander her later? Male privilege involves a great deal of cognitive dissonance. 

thecypherstones:

swankshaman:

9 Black butch lesbians share their stories in The Butch Mystique (2003)

The last one!!

"It hurts me so much when men look at me in a way of hatred. They only hate me because I’m not making myself available to them."

fandomsandfeminism:

generalmaluga:

albinwonderland:

fandomsandfeminism:

betterthanabortion:

"My body, my choice" only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.

Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.
See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon. 
Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy. 
To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died. 
You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies. 

reblogging for commentary 

But, assuming the mother wasn’t raped, the choice to HAVE a baby and risk sacrificing their “bodily autonomy” is a choice that the mother made. YOu don’t have to have sex with someone. Cases of rape aside, it isn’t ethical to say abortion is justified. The unborn baby has rights, too. 

First point: Bodily autonomy can be preserved, even if another life is dependent on it. See again the example about the blood donation. 
And here’s another point: When you say that “rape is the exception” you betray something FUNDAMENTALLY BROKEN about your own argument.
Because a fetus produced from sexual assault is biologically NO DIFFERENT than a fetus produced from consensual sex. No difference at all.
If one is alive, so is the other. If one is a person, so is the other. If one has a soul, then so does the other. If one is a little blessing that happened for a reason and must be protected, then so is the other. 
When you say that “Rape is the exception” what you betray is this: It isn’t about a life. This isn’t about the little soul sitting inside some person’s womb, because if it was you wouldn’t care about HOW it got there, only that it is a little life that needs protecting.
When you say “rape is the exception” what you say is this: You are treating pregnancy as a punishment. You are PUNISHING people who have had CONSENSUAL SEX but don’t want to go through a pregnancy. People who DARED to have consensual sex without the goal of procreation in mind, and this is their “consequence.” 
And that is gross. 

fandomsandfeminism:

generalmaluga:

albinwonderland:

fandomsandfeminism:

betterthanabortion:

"My body, my choice" only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.

Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.

See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon. 

Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy. 

To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died. 

You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies. 

reblogging for commentary 

But, assuming the mother wasn’t raped, the choice to HAVE a baby and risk sacrificing their “bodily autonomy” is a choice that the mother made. YOu don’t have to have sex with someone. Cases of rape aside, it isn’t ethical to say abortion is justified. The unborn baby has rights, too. 

First point: Bodily autonomy can be preserved, even if another life is dependent on it. See again the example about the blood donation. 

And here’s another point: When you say that “rape is the exception” you betray something FUNDAMENTALLY BROKEN about your own argument.

Because a fetus produced from sexual assault is biologically NO DIFFERENT than a fetus produced from consensual sex. No difference at all.

If one is alive, so is the other. If one is a person, so is the other. If one has a soul, then so does the other. If one is a little blessing that happened for a reason and must be protected, then so is the other. 

When you say that “Rape is the exception” what you betray is this: It isn’t about a life. This isn’t about the little soul sitting inside some person’s womb, because if it was you wouldn’t care about HOW it got there, only that it is a little life that needs protecting.

When you say “rape is the exception” what you say is this: You are treating pregnancy as a punishment. You are PUNISHING people who have had CONSENSUAL SEX but don’t want to go through a pregnancy. People who DARED to have consensual sex without the goal of procreation in mind, and this is their “consequence.” 

And that is gross. 

hostilehottie:

rapeculturerealities:

azurewhelp:

p1013:

thepacificrimjob:

harebrained:

The PERIOD PANTIES Kickstarter is now live! Support this bloody project!

Dudes!! I have two pairs of these (Cunt Dracula and Rainbo: First Blood) And not only are they lined with thick black fabric on the inside but they don’t bunch up so if pads are your thing it’ll stay in place! Also they’re super kickass and comfy; definitely support this one!

Backed!

Reasons I have a problem with this:

1.) Created by a cis dude (AFAIK). Cis dudes have been developing and profiting off materials for menstruation for a long time without having to really consider how to do it.

2.) The project was started because the guy’s GF was having trouble expressing to him that she was on her period and that is why she wanted to not have sex with him, so these panties were a way of “letting him know” so he didn’t have to question why she didn’t want sex with him. (what, gross)

3.) There’s legit small bizs that make menstruation products (GladRags, LunaCups, etc) that I’d much rather support with dollars.

4.) Why do designs that a man came up with include gendered slurs and also look like Ed Hurley was trying to make a tampon commercial. I’m all for funny alternative slang for menstruating but this is somewhat terrible.

You can support this if you want but the idea of some guy getting 170k because he can’t just take “no” for sex at face value and doesn’t want to address why his GF might feel uncomfortable talking about her body with a sexual partner but instead make a profit off of it is unconscionable to me.

reblogging here for that A+ commentary.  i had no idea any of this was a thing… just shows you how important it is to do your research…

oh. fuck. :(

metaneira:

"The Dignity of Work", by Jen Sorensen

metaneira:

"The Dignity of Work", by Jen Sorensen

snowy-owl-whitecotton:

One of the most important reasons to encourage an individual rather than praise them is to empower that individual. If I give you praise then I am telling you that you need my approval, that your worth is determined by me; when you should be able to define your own worth without seeking out approval from another. This seeking approval can come naturally because many of us want our loved ones to value what we think, feel, and do, and wanting the approval of a loved one is not a bad thing necessarily but one can be supportive while encouraging an individual.

Praise is instant gratification; praise is here and gone in a second. “Oh, that’s nice,” the teacher says to the child who just showed them his or her artwork. The child sought attention and appreciation, received a typical response, and returns to their seat. Sure, saying “that’s nice” is a nice thing to say but encouraging statements leave a greater impact and truly shows the individual that you are paying attention.

By saying “that’s nice” the teacher has given the child their approval. That tells the child what they did is important if the teacher says so, reinforcing authority, rather than encouraging positive self-esteem.

piscula:

in 1930 the average wages were $27,481*
in 2012 the average wages were $44,321

in 1930 the average home cost $53,635*
in 2013 the average home cost $289,500

in 1930 the average car cost $8,369*
in 2013 the average car cost $31,352

but no you are probably right, it’s just twenty-somethings being lazy.

Men of color and the Disney characters they have played

Reblog if people say you don’t look your age.

thegoddamazon:

niksupreme:

nomorewaterthefirenexttime:

221,863 black people reblogged this

Lol truth

Lorde reblogged this too.

I got asked if I wanted a children’s menu recently…been awhile since that happened, but damn. >.<

A message from rayofbliss
'Darkness cannot drive out darkness; only light can do that. Hate cannot drive out hate; only love can do that.'
A reply from fuckingrapeculture

You can actually just replace this message with “I’m White”.

- Mod D.

thorsockrock:

social-darwin-awards:

dthemod:

White people fucking love MLK when they can use him to silence PoC.

It’s hardly silencing to point out that you’re directly contradicting one of his teachings.

Alright, let’s quote some MLK that us white people like to conveniently ignore.

“We know through painful experience that freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed.”

“Let justice roll down like waters and righteousness like a mighty stream.”

“One has not only a legal, but a moral responsibility to obey just laws. Conversely, one has a moral responsibility to disobey unjust laws.”

"But if physical death is the price that some must pay (Yes sir) to free their children from a permanent life of psychological death (Yes sir), then nothing can be more Christian. (Yes sir) Keep going today. (Yes sir) Keep moving amid every obstacle. (Yes sir) Keep moving amid every mountain of opposition. (Yes sir, Yeah) If you will do that with dignity (Say it), when the history books are written in the future, the historians will have to look back and say, “There lived a great people. (Yes sir, Yes) A people with ‘fleecy locks and black complexion,’ but a people who injected new meaning into the veins of civilization (Yes); a people which stood up with dignity and honor and saved Western civilization in her darkest hour."

"Now, I’m not talking about a sentimental, shallow kind of love. (Go ahead) I’m not talking about eros, which is a sort of aesthetic, romantic love. I’m not even talking about philia, which is a sort of intimate affection between personal friends. But I’m talking about agape. (Yes sir) I’m talking about the love of God in the hearts of men. (Yes) I’m talking about a type of love which will cause you to love the person who does the evil deed while hating the deed that the person does. (Go ahead) We’ve got to love. (Oh yes)"

“Somebody told a lie one day. They couched it in language. They made everything black ugly and evil. Look in your dictionary and see the synonyms of the word “black.” It’s always something degrading, low, and sinister. Look at the word “white.” It’s always something pure, high, clean. Well, I wanna get the language right tonight. I want to get the language so right that everybody here will cry out, ‘yes, I’m Black. I’m proud of it! I’m Black and I’m beautiful.’”

"They applauded us in the sit-in movement— we non-violently decided to sit in at lunch counters. The applauded us on the Freedom Rides when we accepted blows without retaliation. They praised us in Albany and Birmingham and Selma, Alabama. Oh, the press was so noble in its applause, and so noble in its praise when I was saying, Be non-violent toward Bull Connor;when I was saying, Be non-violent toward [Selma, Alabama segregationist sheriff] Jim Clark. There’s something strangely inconsistent about a nation and a press that will praise you when you say, “Be non-violent toward Jim Clark,” but will curse and damn you when you say, “Be non-violent toward little brown Vietnamese children.” There’s something wrong with that press!

"We want to rely upon the goodwill of those who oppose us. Indeed, we have brought forward the method of non-violence to give and example of unilateral goodwill in an effect to evoke it in those who have not just felt it in their hearts. But we know that if we are not simultaneously organizing our strength we will have no means to move forward. If we do not advance, the crushing burden of centuries of neglect and economic deprivation will destroy our will, our spirits, and our hopes."

"Be concerned about your brother. You may not be on strike. But either we go up together, or we go down together. Let us develop a kind of dangerous unselfishness."

"In a larger sense we’ve got to see this in our world today. Our white brothers must see this; they haven’t seen it up to now. The great problem facing our nation today in the area of race is that it is the black man who to a large extent produced the wealth of this nation. (All right) And the nation doesn’t have sense enough to share its wealth and its power with the very people who made it so. (All right) And I know what I’m talking about this morning. (Yes, sir) The black man made America wealthy. (Yes, sir)

"Freedom is never voluntarily given by the oppressor; it must be demanded by the oppressed."

"A second area in which there is need for strong leadership is from the white northern liberals. There is a dire need today for a liberalism which is truly liberal. What we are witnessing today in so many northern communities is a sort of quasi-liberalism which is based on the principle of looking sympathetically at all sides. It is a liberalism so bent on seeing all sides, that it fails to become committed to either side. It is a liberalism that is so objectively analytical that it is not subjectively committed. It is a liberalism which is neither hot nor cold, but lukewarm. (All right) We call for a liberalism from the North which will be thoroughly committed to the ideal of racial justice.”

“I have consistently preached that nonviolence demands that the means we use must be as pure as the ends we seek. I have tried to make clear that it is wrong to use immoral means to attain moral ends. But now I must affirm that it is just as wrong, or perhaps even more so, to use moral means to preserve immoral ends.

"And those who hope that the Negro needed to blow off steam and will now be content will have a rude awakening if the nation returns to business as usual. And there will be neither rest nor tranquility in America until the Negro is granted his citizenship rights. The whirlwinds of revolt will continue to shake the foundations of our nation until the bright day of justice emerges."

If peace means accepting second class citizenship, then I don’t want it. If peace means keeping my mouth shut in the midst of evil and injustice, then I don’t want it. If peace means being complacent and accepting the status quo, then I don’t want it. If peace means being passive, then I don’t want it. If peace means a willingness to be exploited and humiliated, then that’s the kind of peace that I don’t want.”

If you’re going to quote some Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr., then quote some fucking Rev. Dr. Martin Luther King Jr. But when you only quote MLK in order to tell POC that they’re “being mean to you” after you’ve displayed oppressive attitudes or behaviors or statements? Yeah. That’s exactly what silencing is.