A message from blondhairalex
What is the difference between pansexuality and bisexuality? I first thought that if you were bisexual you were into girls and boys and that pansexuality was attraction towards all genders, but then i saw you explaining bisexuality to someone and i just got a little confused and would you mind explaining this to me?
A reply from fandomsandfeminism

Sure. So just to get some definitions out of the way:

Bisexuality: The attraction to your own gender and different genders.

Pansexuality: the attraction to all genders. 

Obviously there is a lot of overlap there. MANY bisexual people, myself included, are attracted to non-binary people, and to suggest that we aren’t as a rule is very inaccurate. 

Why people identify as bi or pan is often a very person thing and involves your relationship with those terms and communities. 

In general, bisexuality has a longer history as a political force, a longer history of activism, which I personally find appealing. Also, as a bisexual, I feel that gender DOES in some ways impact my attraction to people. I find different traits attractive in different genders, so while I am attracted to multiple, gender does play a role.

Pansexuality is a newer term and a younger community, which some people find appealing. Also, many pansexuals describe their experience with attraction as having nothing at all to do with gender. Many pansexuals describe this as being “gender blind”, where their attraction to someone has nothing at all to do with their gender. 

A message from pastel-whorehouse
You clearly misunderstood what I tried to say. I'm not against feminism. Equality is something our society needs. Women stepping on men's rights is something we clearly do NOT need and next time, before you try to start an argument think about what the other person is trying to say and don't just go shoving down other people throat your beliefs.
A reply from fandomsandfeminism

OH MY GOD. Would you look at this! You called people FEMINAZIS, which is highly offensive and inappropriate. And you’re going to try to get all “how dare you shove your beliefs down people’s throats!” because you got called out on your gross shit? 

fandomsandfeminism:

pretentious-medic:

azurewhelp:

fandomsandfeminism:

godgeous:

fandomsandfeminism:

The difference between bisexuality and pansexuality: a powerpoint guide. 

(updated) 

why the fuck can’t you just be attracted to who you’re attracted to. who needs to split hairs with these fucking prefixes. splitting hairs to me

Our communities are important to us. I’m not saying everyone needs to have a label, or even has to have one as specific as these. But I have found that having that identity- being Bisexual, has given me a sense of community, solidarity, and most importantly validation. 

I don’t really care if it feels like “Splitting hairs” to others.  

holy shit it’s LITERALLY THE ONLY GRAPHIC on Tumblr about bi/pansexuality that doesn’t make me feel like shit and acknowledges that some of us are older queer individuals who don’t have a connection to the pansexual term and sometimes have specific preferences in some genders. HOLY SHIT.

oh boy here we go

Sexuality is defined by biological sex (your rude bits, basically), not by gender. Gender, instead, is a factor in romantic attraction. Romantic orientation and sexual orientation are not mutually inclusive. Gender is a series of performative acts where your culture has written the script, whereas biological sex is a binary (I’m ignoring hermaphrodites, yes, but they’re such a small minority of people and it’s a whole other can of worms). Therefore, “bisexual” is the only term required for sexuality. Romantic attraction, on the other hand…

Pansexuality is not wrong; it’s merely mislabeled. It’s not a sexual orientation, it’s a romantic one.

Not according to every major bisexual organization in the country. 

You can be attracted to a person without ever seeing their genitalia. Saying that attraction is only based on sex is simply wrong. (Hell, so is defining sex just by genitalia) We see their gender presentation, and that is the basis for attraction most times. 

Also, sex is not the simply binary you are trying to present it as. There are intersex people, as you mentioned (which using some very outdated and potentially offensive vocabulary) but that’s not all. Chromosomes and genitalia do not always “match up” the way you were taught in middle school science class after all. 

gradientlair:

And let me save some patriarchal heterosexual men some time here since this will be the reply: "It’s different for women because [insert sexism] [insert misogyny] [insert a theism] [insert a secular view that supports gender inequality] [insert inaccurate biological essentialism] [make some reference to egg count/menopause for women versus sperm count/ability to make sperm forever for men, which will be inherently cissexist] [insert misogynoir where if the woman is Black, she’s considered “dirty” regardless of sexual activity or not] [insert other unproven fuckery that reveals abysmal cognitive dissonance].”  
And like, if she was “dirty” in his opinion prior to the sexual activity, why did he bother with it only to slander her later? Male privilege involves a great deal of cognitive dissonance. 

gradientlair:

And let me save some patriarchal heterosexual men some time here since this will be the reply: "It’s different for women because [insert sexism] [insert misogyny] [insert a theism] [insert a secular view that supports gender inequality] [insert inaccurate biological essentialism] [make some reference to egg count/menopause for women versus sperm count/ability to make sperm forever for men, which will be inherently cissexist] [insert misogynoir where if the woman is Black, she’s considered “dirty” regardless of sexual activity or not] [insert other unproven fuckery that reveals abysmal cognitive dissonance].”  

And like, if she was “dirty” in his opinion prior to the sexual activity, why did he bother with it only to slander her later? Male privilege involves a great deal of cognitive dissonance. 

thecypherstones:

swankshaman:

9 Black butch lesbians share their stories in The Butch Mystique (2003)

The last one!!

"It hurts me so much when men look at me in a way of hatred. They only hate me because I’m not making myself available to them."

fandomsandfeminism:

generalmaluga:

albinwonderland:

fandomsandfeminism:

betterthanabortion:

"My body, my choice" only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.

Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.
See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon. 
Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy. 
To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died. 
You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies. 

reblogging for commentary 

But, assuming the mother wasn’t raped, the choice to HAVE a baby and risk sacrificing their “bodily autonomy” is a choice that the mother made. YOu don’t have to have sex with someone. Cases of rape aside, it isn’t ethical to say abortion is justified. The unborn baby has rights, too. 

First point: Bodily autonomy can be preserved, even if another life is dependent on it. See again the example about the blood donation. 
And here’s another point: When you say that “rape is the exception” you betray something FUNDAMENTALLY BROKEN about your own argument.
Because a fetus produced from sexual assault is biologically NO DIFFERENT than a fetus produced from consensual sex. No difference at all.
If one is alive, so is the other. If one is a person, so is the other. If one has a soul, then so does the other. If one is a little blessing that happened for a reason and must be protected, then so is the other. 
When you say that “Rape is the exception” what you betray is this: It isn’t about a life. This isn’t about the little soul sitting inside some person’s womb, because if it was you wouldn’t care about HOW it got there, only that it is a little life that needs protecting.
When you say “rape is the exception” what you say is this: You are treating pregnancy as a punishment. You are PUNISHING people who have had CONSENSUAL SEX but don’t want to go through a pregnancy. People who DARED to have consensual sex without the goal of procreation in mind, and this is their “consequence.” 
And that is gross. 

fandomsandfeminism:

generalmaluga:

albinwonderland:

fandomsandfeminism:

betterthanabortion:

"My body, my choice" only makes sense when someone else’s life isn’t at stake.

Fun fact: If my younger sister was in a car accident and desperately needed a blood transfusion to live, and I was the only person on Earth who could donate blood to save her, and even though donating blood is a relatively easy, safe, and quick procedure no one can force me to give blood. Yes, even to save the life of a fully grown person, it would be ILLEGAL to FORCE me to donate blood if I didn’t want to.

See, we have this concept called “bodily autonomy.” It’s this….cultural notion that a person’s control over their own body is above all important and must not be infringed upon. 

Like, we can’t even take LIFE SAVING organs from CORPSES unless the person whose corpse it is gave consent before their death. Even corpses get bodily autonomy. 

To tell people that they MUST sacrifice their bodily autonomy for 9 months against their will in an incredibly expensive, invasive, difficult process to save what YOU view as another human life (a debatable claim in the early stages of pregnancy when the VAST majority of abortions are performed) is desperately unethical. You can’t even ask people to sacrifice bodily autonomy to give up organs they aren’t using anymore after they have died. 

You’re asking people who can become pregnant to accept less bodily autonomy than we grant to dead bodies. 

reblogging for commentary 

But, assuming the mother wasn’t raped, the choice to HAVE a baby and risk sacrificing their “bodily autonomy” is a choice that the mother made. YOu don’t have to have sex with someone. Cases of rape aside, it isn’t ethical to say abortion is justified. The unborn baby has rights, too. 

First point: Bodily autonomy can be preserved, even if another life is dependent on it. See again the example about the blood donation. 

And here’s another point: When you say that “rape is the exception” you betray something FUNDAMENTALLY BROKEN about your own argument.

Because a fetus produced from sexual assault is biologically NO DIFFERENT than a fetus produced from consensual sex. No difference at all.

If one is alive, so is the other. If one is a person, so is the other. If one has a soul, then so does the other. If one is a little blessing that happened for a reason and must be protected, then so is the other. 

When you say that “Rape is the exception” what you betray is this: It isn’t about a life. This isn’t about the little soul sitting inside some person’s womb, because if it was you wouldn’t care about HOW it got there, only that it is a little life that needs protecting.

When you say “rape is the exception” what you say is this: You are treating pregnancy as a punishment. You are PUNISHING people who have had CONSENSUAL SEX but don’t want to go through a pregnancy. People who DARED to have consensual sex without the goal of procreation in mind, and this is their “consequence.” 

And that is gross. 

hostilehottie:

rapeculturerealities:

azurewhelp:

p1013:

thepacificrimjob:

harebrained:

The PERIOD PANTIES Kickstarter is now live! Support this bloody project!

Dudes!! I have two pairs of these (Cunt Dracula and Rainbo: First Blood) And not only are they lined with thick black fabric on the inside but they don’t bunch up so if pads are your thing it’ll stay in place! Also they’re super kickass and comfy; definitely support this one!

Backed!

Reasons I have a problem with this:

1.) Created by a cis dude (AFAIK). Cis dudes have been developing and profiting off materials for menstruation for a long time without having to really consider how to do it.

2.) The project was started because the guy’s GF was having trouble expressing to him that she was on her period and that is why she wanted to not have sex with him, so these panties were a way of “letting him know” so he didn’t have to question why she didn’t want sex with him. (what, gross)

3.) There’s legit small bizs that make menstruation products (GladRags, LunaCups, etc) that I’d much rather support with dollars.

4.) Why do designs that a man came up with include gendered slurs and also look like Ed Hurley was trying to make a tampon commercial. I’m all for funny alternative slang for menstruating but this is somewhat terrible.

You can support this if you want but the idea of some guy getting 170k because he can’t just take “no” for sex at face value and doesn’t want to address why his GF might feel uncomfortable talking about her body with a sexual partner but instead make a profit off of it is unconscionable to me.

reblogging here for that A+ commentary.  i had no idea any of this was a thing… just shows you how important it is to do your research…

oh. fuck. :(

metaneira:

"The Dignity of Work", by Jen Sorensen

metaneira:

"The Dignity of Work", by Jen Sorensen

snowy-owl-whitecotton:

One of the most important reasons to encourage an individual rather than praise them is to empower that individual. If I give you praise then I am telling you that you need my approval, that your worth is determined by me; when you should be able to define your own worth without seeking out approval from another. This seeking approval can come naturally because many of us want our loved ones to value what we think, feel, and do, and wanting the approval of a loved one is not a bad thing necessarily but one can be supportive while encouraging an individual.

Praise is instant gratification; praise is here and gone in a second. “Oh, that’s nice,” the teacher says to the child who just showed them his or her artwork. The child sought attention and appreciation, received a typical response, and returns to their seat. Sure, saying “that’s nice” is a nice thing to say but encouraging statements leave a greater impact and truly shows the individual that you are paying attention.

By saying “that’s nice” the teacher has given the child their approval. That tells the child what they did is important if the teacher says so, reinforcing authority, rather than encouraging positive self-esteem.

piscula:

in 1930 the average wages were $27,481*
in 2012 the average wages were $44,321

in 1930 the average home cost $53,635*
in 2013 the average home cost $289,500

in 1930 the average car cost $8,369*
in 2013 the average car cost $31,352

but no you are probably right, it’s just twenty-somethings being lazy.